Sunday, February 21, 2010

Asking for cash instead of traditional gifts

Is it taboo to ask for cash as a wedding gift? While it may be frowned upon by some, more couples are now doing this. Plenty of reasons come to mind: they probably have enough stuff for the household that giving another blender would just occupy space, or the couple plans to live in another country, or they may just want you to help them start their married life.

But how should you ask your guests that you'd prefer a monetary gift over a traditional one? A relative or a friend might take it the wrong way if you tell them outright.

When my husband and I were still halfway through the planning stage, we wanted to give hints to our guests that we would like to receive such gifts. My mom helped me out on this -- she spread the word to my relatives. "Gift is good, but they need cash." It came as a joke (half-meant, I would say) but it kinda worked: as 3/4 of the guests were my relatives, the total amount we received would have covered half of our wedding expenditures.

Another idea is to tell them through a poem, which you can write on the invitation. One such poem can be found over at
If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.
What I liked about this poem is that it sounded more of a request; it didn't require guests to give just cash. They can surprise the couple with anything they think the bride and groom would like.

There's also the wedding wishing well where guests can put in their monetary gifts as they enter the reception hall. You can tell your guests about it also via your invitation. Here's an example of a wedding wishing well poem from
To save you looking, shopping or buying
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying.
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well
And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well.
Fill it with paper all colours will do, gold is our favorite but silver will do.
Now that we have saved you, all of the fuss
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.
It doesn't sound rude, right? Plus, it tells them that their presence matters, not because of the gift they would give, but because they are important to you.

Here are a few ideas you could use if you want to receive cash as wedding gifts. Not only is it beneficial to you, but it also helps remove the stress from your guests in searching for a great wedding gift for you. Just remember to ask nicely so it won't ruin your big day.


  1. Funny article!! my favorite sterling silver jewelry is Magnolia unfortunately you cannot buy online however they do have a huge amount of concession stands in major malls each with unique designs that are updated EVERY month

  2. We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull, Some have weird names , and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.............................................

  3. Aww.. we should have read this before my wedding. We really wanted to get cash instead of stuffs but we didn't know how to tell our guests. hehe

    - nvtellan